Sexuality



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Introduction

It is common, for cisgender people (people whose gender identity matches the one they were assigned at birth), especially parents after their kids come out (whether grown up or still children), to assume that being trans means you’re gay, because they assume by default that someone is attracted to a member of the opposite sex.

This misconception can work in several ways, e.g.:

Generally speaking, it’s never good to assume someone’s sexuality. A trans person can be heterosexual, gay/lesbian or bisexual.

This comic from Assigned Male by Sophie Labelle has some more insight: https://78.media.tumblr.com/11a87057833740f5fab9b36c682f8030/tumblr_p83omi5VIq1tm163xo1_1280.jpg

Sex education for trans women

Brazen’s Trans Women’s Safer Sex Guide http://web.archive.org/web/20191222005833/http://librarypdf.catie.ca/PDF/ATI-20000s/26424.pdf

Booklet for trans women that focuses in the UK but is still relevant for everyone: http://web.archive.org/web/20170601175125/https://www.tht.org.uk/~/media/4653aa766e3f4c1286fc515f17146f32.ashx

Sex education for trans men

Sex education booklet for trans men that focuses in the UK but is still relevant for everyone

http://web.archive.org/web/20180423065016/http://www.tht.org.uk/%7E/media/8F7D70D8C3B643109351E3D9A633529A.ashx

FTM Sex Talk (Q&A about trans men)

http://web.archive.org/web/20181211004138/http://ftmsextalk.tumblr.com/

Rule of thumb

If a cis man likes only women, he is heterosexual/straight. If he likes men, he’s gay. If he likes men and women, he’s bisexual.

If a trans man likes only women, he is heterosexual/straight. If he likes men, he’s gay. If he likes men and women, he’s bisexual.

If a cis woman likes only men, she is heterosexual/straight. If she likes women, she’s gay. If she likes men and women, she’s bisexual.

If a trans woman likes only men, she is heterosexual/straight. If she likes women, she’s gay. If she likes men and women, she’s bisexual.

But it’s not that simple!

There are other sexuality’s, e.g. pansexual, demisexual, asexual, etc. Or aromantic/panromantic <insert sexuality here> here.

What about non-binary people? A non-binary person is someone who identifies as neither strictly male or female at a given moment, or who switches identities, etc. There are many different types of non-binary trans people!

It’s generally wrong to put labels on anyone. A person is who they are, and they like who they like. Get over it!

One thing is certain: sexuality has nothing to do with gender identity. Gender identity is who you are, and sexuality is who you want.

Make sense now? Yes? Excellent!

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